Father Asks If They Are Wrong For Stop Paying For His Child’s Apartment And Contribute To His Vacation Expenses 2026

In this story, a single parent is struggling with the aftermath of a decision to cut financial support for their eldest child, who recently graduated with a degree in a field the parent strongly disapproves of. Despite passionate disagreements during the child’s education, they pursued their chosen career, securing a job that pays moderately but has limited growth potential in the local job market.

As the parent enforces the stipulation of financial independence after a year of post-graduation support, tensions escalate when the child realizes the extent of their financial responsibilities. The parent, unyielding in their resolve, refuses to renew the financial support, insisting that the child navigate the challenges of adult life independently. The child, facing the prospect of relocating to a more affordable area or finding additional employment, confronts the harsh reality of balancing passion and financial stability. Desperate to maintain their current lifestyle, the child seeks support from extended family members, creating a rift within the family as opinions on the parent’s decision diverge.

Keep on scrolling down below to read the whole story narrated by OP and make sure to read it till the end otherwise, you won’t be able to let us know whether OP is an A-hole or not.

1. OP has several children and their mother is not in the picture while raising them as a single parent OP always told them he would pay for their college so they don’t have to graduate with debt but there are some stipulations which they need to choose a degree which will support their lifestyle and the other is OP will only help them for a year

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2. OP’s eldest graduated last year with a degree that OP disagreed with because it doesn’t pay well where they are living but he had a passion for the field

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3. OP also bought them a car as a graduation gift and has been paying for their insurance moreover, OP also paid for their apartment rent which is $5000 a month, and now their lease is coming but OP has remained them it’s been a year and now they are on their own.

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4. OP and his kid got into heated discussions because they said they couldn’t afford to live in the city while working at their job but OP had already warned them about it

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5. OP said they would be responsible for paying their way from now on which includes family reunion vacation next summer but they argued and said they could not afford it

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6. Now OP wants to know whether he’s being too strict, let’s find out.

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7. Yes maybe OP should pay for the family vacation

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8. NTA

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9. Reality is adulting is not a piece of cake; maturity is when you understand it!

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10. What are your thoughts on this?

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11. I agree with this!

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12. The fact that OP already told them all of these conditions and terms but the fact they are denying it makes them an A-hole, not OP

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13. Maybe he will support everyone

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14. Exactly, maybe it is a bit harsh but the rest is adulting and he needs to figure it out.

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15. They should look for affordable accommodations rather than making a big deal out of it

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16. OP would have been an A-hole if he hadn’t made them aware of the conditions but he already did that so NTA

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17. The gestures shown by OP were generous a lot of parents don’t even give a damn about what their kids do

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